Enlightening Life | July 23 2012

One thing I have stressed in many articles about Indigo and Crystal children is how important it is to communicate with them. And this extends beyond talking, it is actually more focused on listening and knowing what to listen to and for. As a rule, Indigos don’t talk much and don’t like to talk about themselves so what they do share becomes very important, especially when we’re dealing with children who are depressed, using drugs, looking for their life path or are at risk. It can be very easy to assume that because they don’t talk they don’t have anything to say or don’t want to talk to us but that’s not true, we just need new listening skills.

I remember listening to conversations between my children and their friends and although they never seemed to say much to each other, what little they did say appeared to have a big impact. When I asked my son about it, he said ‘Mom, I know what he wants to say.’ So, what do your children want to say that they don’t have the words for? In my experience, the call frequency says a lot. If I hear from them more than once a week, there’s a problem and I ask about what’s going on in their life instead of waiting for them to get around to telling me. If they talk about how upset they are with world events, I ask what’s upset them recently. And if they ask about me a lot, they miss me and need some mothering.

It is a kind of proactive communication that takes more work but it addresses issues before they become problems. If you wait for your Indigo (orCrystal) child to tell you what’s going on with them, you are in for a frustrating process. They may tell you that they’re fine but if you really listen, you may hear their fear and frustration and can address that. They may ignore you if you ask them to get a job but if you listen to other things they say, not related to that topic, they may answer your question.

Indigos take their time to ‘grow up’, find their path and become comfortable with themselves. We cannot expect them to be like we were at their age because they are not. Many don’t marry until they are in their 30s and their 20s can be very difficult period of trying to find their way. Instead of being married and starting a family  in their 20s (as many of us were), many still live at home and are trying to figure out how to become an adult, how to get there, and what to do once they get there. Becoming an active listener helps them communicate with you more effectively and communication is not one of their better skills. Parenting Indigos requires more than providing food, clothes and shelter, we are their guides and teachers and need to use our gifts to help them find and connect with theirs. So listen beyond the words and silence and you may hear a lot, which can help you make a difference in their lives.

Copyright (c) 2012 by Jennifer Hoffman. All rights reserved. 

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