Right now is a life and death battle between sacred and scared. The scale swings sometimes wildly. Fear is what comes and scares us. They came to you at some time in the past when you needed that protective warning and now they have overstayed their welcome and you haven’t booted them out.
The love/fear scale is to test our awareness. More love, less fear; more fear, less love. Love is the great dispeller of fear. Love is the great bringer of sacred. Have you noticed that when you go take care of someone else, when you listen to someone else from your heart, when you wake up to someone around you, you have more love than fear?
Fold a piece of paper in half anyway you want. At the top left write “Fears” and at the top right write “Love”. Then make a list of what creates or awakens your fears on the left. Then on the right, make a list of what awakens your love. If you look at this list daily, you will become more aware and remember what you feed is what lives and grows. You get to choose.
Connection in physical reality is a beautiful endeavor. A relationship experienced within the boundaries of the solid environment is like no other. Many seek endlessly the opportunity to connect, while others seek to maintain it.
In our observation, we find that the ability to stay connected is more difficult than finding it.
How then, does one nurture a good connection in the physical environment?
It is important to realize that it is the exchange of energy that tops the list.
Communication leads the way to safely guard the beauty of a relationship.
In a world where listening and talking can become a competition of who speaks the loudest, the idea of listening with awareness may be neglected.
Two energies must be willing to actually listen to each other. By this we also speak, that an exchanging in the confines of listening means being still for a moment to allow the other energy to actually mingle with yours.
Agape, a Greek word meaning unconditional love, is the single most powerful tool in existence for changing one’s life and the lives of those around you. Unconditional love changes your heart rate, your skin temperature and even the dilation of your pupils. It softens your perspective on the world around you, which of course softens the perspective of others toward you.
You might ask, how is it possible to have agape (unconditional love) in such an angry world? The answer is quite simple… if you live your life in the instant moment, not what was, or what might be, there is actually only a moment of drama.
Drama both comes and departs in a moment. It is either in the past or the future. Love unconditionally and live for right now… this minute, this moment, for right now is really all there is.
Forgiveness purges your life of misery. Forgiveness allows you to breathe a full breath. Think about it… when you are angry, how does it feel to breathe? Do your lungs fill with air and your body experience a deep sense of relaxation? That is the way it is supposed to feel.
When you harbor anger, a number of events occur in your body and the best way I can describe it is like this: if you have ever been driving, looked in your rear view mirror and saw the blue lights of a police car flashing, the typical response is a subtle sense of heightened awareness in the gut.
Forbearance is the act of patience, the act of forgiveness and a new basis of equality reached that amends within a new circumstance. To have Forbearance there is a certain strength required within an interaction. For one that seeks to improve Life, the strength to forgive is a powerful catalyst of freedom that is generated from within. It is choice. The strength to admit having harmed another or ‘failed’ in some way is also a potential catalyst for freedom. Yet how often does one seek forgiveness from another and not forgive the self? How often does one speak words of forgiveness and silently hold a grudge or piety? How patiently can you accept Life where it is, hold your unwavering, loving Light and magnetize change, which is merely Creation? It is a matter of your internal strength. That includes your ability to understand your limits and expand beyond them with loving grace.
The angels are telling us that positive energy is pouring onto the earth right now and increasing as the days pass. Wonderful. I have been feeling very calm and happy, very happy indeed as of late. This can be attributed to the energy that is pouring in and the fact that I have been working on myself for many weeks now. I meditate a couple of times a day and I am mindful of my thoughts and feeling. I made a pact the other day, with myself. I told myself while having a nice hot shower, that I would no longer allow negative thoughts and emotions to penetrate into me. I would do my best to stay positive. I would avoid negativity as much as is humanly possible. I made a choice and I am sticking to that choice, but it ain’t easy!
The angels tell us that those who are mindful of ascension and who are working towards that should be feeling positive, peaceful, calm, and loving. And all things negative might begin to make you feel uncomfortable. Yes, this is exactly how I am feeling as of late, and it is wonderful. But I am finding it increasingly difficult to deal with 3D dramas. Here’s a good example.
My wife’s father passed away a short week ago. He was very loved by all. My wife is going through many emotions and ups and downs right now, I understanding her pain. A couple of her close friends did not contact her after her father passed. They made no effort. They didn’t come to the funeral or the wake. My wife is upset and angry about this and decided to cut off contact with them. She called them vulgar names and spread a great deal of anger and negative energy around my house. And here I am trying to stay balanced and happy. It’s crazy!
We had a talk last night. She explained, in a very animated way, why she was angry. I sat and listened and remained calm. I told her that we should not judge others. She didn’t like that. I told her that we all face life lessons and I guess her friends are going through a pretty big one now and will hopefully learn something positive once this all blows over. I imagine that they will contact you to discuss this at some point in the future, I told her. I remained calm. It was a test of sorts for myself. I promised myself that I would not get sucked into drama or negativity anymore and that is exactly what I managed to do during this talk. I stayed positive and calm, and was very proud of that, and was supportive of my dear wife.
Make it safe for people to disagree with you. You’ll be surprised by how much you can learn. ~ Dr. Rodger Duncan
No one on his deathbed ever said “I wish I’d spent more time at the office.”
Don’t get me wrong. Work is a wonderful thing. It can be very fulfilling and can provide meaningful service to others. But personal relationships are the most important things in our lives. It’s through relationships with others that we learn about ourselves, about how to make choices, how to self correct, how to grow and develop, how to contribute to the human community, how to turn dreams into reality.
And listening is the most important behavior in those relationships. Really listening. This requires using your eyes and your heart as well as your ears. Effective people listen to learn and understand rather than to rebut and overpower. They exercise influence rather than authority. They’re willing to be influenced rather than assuming that the views of others should always be subservient to theirs.
A comic once said that authentic communication is 50% sincerity, and then you just fake the rest. That line may get a chuckle, but it’s a dangerous practice. Genuine listening is much, much more than eye contact and an occasional “uh-huh.” Genuine listening involves connecting heart to heart and working to understand the other person’s viewpoint even if you don’t agree with it.
Listening with true empathy is the best kind of listening. Most people don’t want sympathy. They want empathy, which is all about understanding.
I recently had a rather heated discussion with a friend who was trying to convince me that I was wrong about something. She was quite irritated that I would not agree with her because as far as I was concerned I wasn’t wrong. And I wasn’t trying as hard to convince her of my ‘right-ness’ as she was in insisting that I was wrong. This wasn’t about right or wrong, though, it was about truth. Any time there is a right or wrong in a situation, the real issue at hand is the truth, and whose truth is true.
Some people will go to great lengths to assert that they know best, they are right, and they know the truth. But truth is a funny thing because as much as we want to know ‘the Truth’, all we can really know for sure is what is true for us. Someone else’s truth is theirs alone. We may agree or share an opinion about it but truth, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. And when they ask us to validate their truth, what they are really asking for is validation that they are worthy of our love.
When my friend insisted that I agree with her, I knew it was personal and went far beyond me and this small incident. For her, it one more time that she had to prove herself and her truth and I was one more person who didn’t agree with her. Although I did agree with her, I just didn’t agree with her truth. It was very personal for her so I had to wonder who had made her so wrong in her life that she needed to hear me repeat her truth back to her. Why wasn’t it enough for her to know her truth and be comfortable with it? Because it wasn’t about her truth, it was about getting me to agree that it was true.
Who will you be? This is the choice before you now. Love or fear?
Everything you do, everyone you run into, everything you eat and wear and say and think – it’s all a statement of who you are creating. She’s who will walk through the last third of this year. By choice; your choice.
He is the manifestation of your thoughts. It does not matter who said or did anything to you. It matters how you loved.
Every Quest, every “other”, every moment, it has always come to this. How do you love? Not the passion or romance, but the love. What is your heart to give now? You cannot give what you don’t have.
What are you carrying in your heart? For this is what is felt by you. From you, to you – the circle is much smaller than you have imagined.
For every uncomfortable, negative emotion that erupts is indeed you – it springs from you. It may begin when you encounter anger or discomfort or fear yet this is absolute truth – you can only give from what is in your purse.
What is in yours? This is the purse that you use for everyone and everything. This is your abundance, your supply. Are your coffers full of sadness? Self pity? Anger? Loneliness? Fear? Are instead you replenishing your purse with agape?
Once you truly understand the love circle, you’ve got it – going anywhere isn’t necessary for you’ve found the way home. The path of your heart will take you always to greener pastures. You are not barren and there is no “other” who can give you your supply.
Come to understand deeply the way of your love – for the path to ascension is there. Many are calling for specific practices and places, methods and beliefs.
Life is wonderful.
The new dawn arrived. I stay in front of it and watch it in awe.
This is me. I let go and see how life unfolds. Just now.
It feels good.
I set myself free from old belief systems and decided to follow my heart.
I am walking my talk outside the highway system and walk in the fields next to it.
I am far off the beaten track and it feels good.
I am free. There is no more fear. There is freedom.
Life is calm, it is wonderful. I feel reconnected with nature, the trees… mother earth.
One step after the other.
I can hardly hear the traffic from the highway next me.
All I see is the dawn.
All I feel is what is.
Gratitude towards all the souls who were or are still in my life is making its way through my heart.
Love for humanity, for all that is.
Most of us have grown up with some version of the Golden Rule that includes doing unto others as you would have them do to you and loving your neighbor as yourself.
Most of us think of the rule as encouraging us to be kinder to others. Such thinking is completely backward. We already do love our neighbors as ourselves. The problem is that most of us have never learned to love ourselves and to see ourselves as a source of love.
We can never really accept or love anyone else until we learn to accept and love ourselves. Even our soulmates, spouses and children – we are only able to love them and receive their love for us in the same measure as we love ourselves.
How do you love yourself? By letting go of self-judgment and criticism. By acknowledging feelings of failure and insufficiency and then letting them go and replacing them with self-affirming thoughts like, “I am doing the best that I can today, and that is enough for today.”
Once I understand that I love my neighbor by loving myself, I realize that I am not just a receiver of love. I am a creator. I have my own light and my own love inside me. I don’t need to wait for someone else to love me first. I can choose to love everyone and everything around me.
Being a physical incarnate is a huge undertaking. The best laid plans can and will go awry. However, even though you may feel like a small insignificant pebble in a vast universe, you are indeed so much more.
Many have asked us what they should be doing, what the definition of their purpose is, and why am I here? In the eye of the hurricane of life, it is often difficult to see an outside view.
If you are plagued with these questions, it is important to be able to take on the responsibility and know that you are capable. The smallest action can create an abundance of goodness. Perhaps stop analyzing and just be.
Often in the linear some may find their paths dominated by opinions and actions of others. Making your choices are an important part of reality creation. If others are allowed to participate with such force, there may be disruptions in the growth of your life.
We are not speaking of relationships where the energy ebbs and flows smoothly. These collaborations and partnerships are valuable. We are speaking of those who would rob you of your own free will.
It is important to always keep the energy between yourselves and others free flowing. If you are a parent, teaching your children to make solid choices is the best tool you can give them.
If you are considering your self in this dialogue, it would be valuable to begin a practice of clear choice making. This would include valuing ultimately making choices for yourself.