Jennifer Hoffman – You have heard me use the phrase ‘create energetic space’ so many times over the years and I have explained it in various ways that include healing and release work. And that is true but once we get beyond the easy stuff then we move into the harder aspects of healing because like everything else, there is a core to what is making us feel stuck, disempowered, afraid, and confused.
As you will learn it is something that eludes us because we are looking in other directions. The key to healing is not more emotional release work, which is often the easy part. There is an energetic component to release work that is the final component, the answer to all of our sadness, and it is the most challenging release work we will ever do.
If you have had questions about why, in spite of years of release work, you just can’t get clear of everything that holds you back, this article will answer those questions, give you some action items to implement, and perhaps even start an energy inventory of what exactly is in your energetic space right now and what you may want to create space for.
To begin, we have to acknowledge that everything is energy and everything has energy. Every thought and belief has its own energy. Try this experiment. Think of something wonderful that happened in your past. I’ll start – the time I was in an orchestra and played the piccolo solo in John Phillip Sousa’s ‘stars and Stripes Forever’ on a barge in the middle of a river. And I played it without making a single error. I had practiced for weeks and it had to be absolutely perfect or someone would notice. It was an honor to play it, an acknowledgement of my talent and skill as a musician, years of practice, and I wanted it to be perfect. And it was. I only played it one time that day but I got it exactly right.
How do you feel about what you just remembered? I feel fantastic, I am smiling, and I remember hitting that last note of that solo, so grateful that it was over and that I had played my solo perfectly. It was one of the more thrilling moments of my life.
Now think of something sad, difficult, something you regret, or that you wish had never happened. Focus on your energy. What has happened to it? Are you feeling bad and sad and getting depressed as you remember this sad and traumatic event?
I remember when I had to put my dog down because he was ill and my vet had said he was suffering too much. I can still remember taking him to the clinic that last time and saying that final goodbye. It is still sad and traumatic today and I can’t think about it without crying. I am sure your sad event is having the same effect on you.
Every one of those emotions you just experienced occupies energetic space in your energy field and they are an active part of your energy field. It’s easy to trigger them at any time and they override all other emotions. Do you ever wonder why your trauma triggers are so quick to be triggered? Because that energy occupies space in your energy field and the bigger, more traumatic, and more important the emotion, the more space it occupies.
And the more important they are and the longer you have held them the more anchored they are. Some of them are rooted quite deeply in your energy field and it is hard to move them out.
This is one especially important aspect of release work and it’s something that everyone ignores because it’s not slick and easy, like telling you to manifest more or be more aligned with what you want. So maybe it’s time to do an energy field inventory to see what you have stashed in the crevices and corners of your energy field that you may not even be aware is there.
The problem with this situation is that when your energy space is fully occupied, and most of ours are, when we want to create something new in our lives we have no place to put it. We have to create space in our energy field by getting rid of some of those big emotional energy anchors and creating space for new energy. That is a big task because each of those emotional energies represents an important life event, usually sad or traumatic, and in many cases, their presence also protects us from repeating past mistakes, or what we call mistakes.
So when we try to have a new relationship enter our energy field, for example, all of our past rejections, heartbreaks, abandonment, disappointments, and other traumas get triggered and step up to remind us that they are occupying that space and there is no vacancy.
What do we do? Rather than tell you to do a massive, huge cleanup and get rid of all of those old energies, which would be impractical and impossible, your energy field inventory will let you know which ones you are ready to get rid of now, and which ones can wait until later. It’s like the difference between deciding to re-organize your kitchen cabinets or tearing your entire kitchen out to the studs and rebuilding it. It’s a lot easier to just move a few dishes around for now.
To conduct your energy field inventory you can ask yourself the following questions:
Where am I holding regret and resentment over things that people did or said to me at any time in my life?
Where am I holding the memory of deep trauma and grief over past events?
Where am I remembering abandonment and betrayal, rejection and disappointment?
Where am I holding unrealized expectations and grief over the life I did not have and the things I did not do?
Where am I afraid that I will never be or become what I hoped and wanted?
What dreams and goals have I pushed to the background but I am still disappointed that they have not manifested yet?
Where am I afraid my life will never be a happy one?
And you can add a few questions of your own.
Now that you see where these energy traumas are, what is the one energy that they all share? You know this answer, I have talked about it before. Yes remembering these things make you unhappy but what energy is present within each of these situations?
Grief. Sadness is an emotion and grief is an energy. While we feel sad about the past and things that have happened or have not happened, we hold that sadness in place with a grief anchor. And grief is a powerful energy. Grief is so powerful that it sets your level of energetic frequency and vibration so that everything in your life resonates at the level of your grief energy.
Each one of your emotional traumas has a grief energy attached to it and that grief occupies space in your energy field. Each one has its own grief energy so you can imagine how much space this occupies. And until you actively and intentionally release the grief, it stays with you, as a constant reminder of what you have suffered in your life. Let’s add to that the grief imprints of our karmic experiences too because we hold them in our energy field as well.
Have you ever met someone who is grieving the loss of someone they loved, or something that happened in their life? Their entire life is consumed by their grief and nothing you do can change that for them. You can feel the grief in their body, you can see it on their face and feel it in their energy.
Trauma victims hold a lot of grief energy. My father experienced significant trauma in his childhood and even though I did not know what he had gone through until I was an adult, as a child I knew something terrible had happened to him because I could see it in his eyes. They had a sad, haunted, lonely look and I have seen that look in other trauma victims. It is the expression of their grief, the helplessness, powerlessness, and overwhelming inability to resolve their trauma and what happened to them.
Grief is the enemy of joy, it is the enemy of your peace of mind and heart, it is the enemy of any kind of transformation that moves you forward, away from the trauma and its grief anchors. Grief is an energy anchor, like a massive stake in the ground, it sets the energy of your trauma as a strong marker for any incoming energies. Its message is ‘this is where I am energetically and I won’t go any farther or higher than this level.’ When you have big chunks of grief energy in your energy field there is no room for anything else.
We express the energy of grief in our life in 3 ways, all of which are forms of self-sabotage:
As protection to remind us of prior pain so we do not ever repeat that situation again and every similar situation that arises we re-activate that grief energy to prevent us from moving forward in that situation
As punishment of ourselves and of others
We punish ourselves by never letting go of our pain to remind us of our failures and of our ignorance in being fooled or manipulated
We punish others by limiting our lives to show them how much they hurt us and what their actions or behavior did to us.
As a limiter of our potential to punish God or Source
We use our grief to limit our potential and the fulfillment of our soul mission and life purpose to punish Source or God, in retaliation for not preventing the trauma from happening to us and for not protecting us.
But all this does is prolong our suffering and make our grief anchors even bigger and stronger and more entrenched. Suddenly we cannot remember our life before the grief and we start to lose our light and our glow. Life becomes difficult and challenging, there is no joy and we become angry, bitter, and resentful. It is not worth the effort to make any changes because we will just be right back where we started, nothing feels good, nothing works out, and the world is a cold, gray, angry place.
Those of you who had childhood trauma, and that includes many of you, from your parents or family also carry a strong grief energy anchor of abandonment, betrayal, jealousy, lack of acceptance or acknowledgement. You feel unloved or unwanted, and that is a big source of grief energy.
Does this sound like your grief? Can you see how there is no space in your energy field for anything besides grief when it is present?
If we do not address the grief we risk becoming an empty shell with limited emotions, and our anger and bitterness will show up on our face, in how we speak to and interact with others, in our posture and in how we carry ourselves, and will be reflected in our life because that much dense negative energy is not going to attract joyful fulfilling people and situations to us.
Trying to transform any part of our lives or energy without taking care of what is in our energy field, like grief energy, is a waste of time and energy because these energies have such a big and powerful presence. And they are not light or easy. They are persistent and they are sticky, a term I have used when describing dense energy that has a presence in our energy field.
Sticky energy tends to cling to us, like getting gum in your hair, or cockleburs on your shoelaces. Sticky energy requires extra effort and a strong intention to remove it. We need to really dig deeply to get at the long taproot of these energies, like our grief, and remove them with specific intention so they do not grow back.
Sticky energy is persistent because it is supported by our emotional traumas and our memories of what happened to us. It’s real, it happened, and we can resent and regret it to the point where we become victims of our own trauma and grief.
There is a solution to all of this and it is not easy but it will work and it will release the grief. It’s why I created the Healing Grief program because it is an issue that I often see in my clients but no one was addressing it. It’s easier to put out a program about the law of abundance or becoming a ‘femme fatale’, or learning to manifest because grief work is the hard work, it’s harder than dealing with your shadow, it is more powerful than doing inner child work because at the foundation of all of your trauma is the grief energy that you have imprinted on your energy field.
The grief healing program is unique because it’s the only program that uniquely addresses grief in a detailed and thorough process. You hold in all 4 energy bodies, physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. And they all have an impact on your life, how you live, love, and how you experience every aspect of your life.
You will have an opportunity to see where these energy anchors are and how they manifest and impact your life in many different ways. Then you will have access to the tools and resources to clear the grief and to release it forever. While grief work is hard, once you release it you release it forever along with all of the emotional trauma associated with it. Then you can be free to experience new emotions, bring new energies into your energy field, and best of all, to stop limiting yourself and your potential and to allow joy in your life.
Are you ready to create real space in your energy field for new energies to enter? Then you will need to address the grief now and stop living with the trauma of the past to enter the joy and freedom of new portals of potential and possibilities.
Check out the grief program at this link and take the first step towards energetic freedom. Use the code grief50 to save $50 off the full pay and the code grief25 to save $25 off the two pay price.
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SF Source Enlightening Life Sep 2024