Jennifer Hoffman – The connections we have with people and situations exist on different levels, they are not as simple as we think they are. And we take them for granted until we start separating from them, or vice versa. Then we feel that tug of something else, it’s called attachment, that is not so easy to let go of without unexpected tears or regret or loss. And there’s another level of connection that binds us on an even deeper level, called enmeshment, and those are even harder to let go of, no matter how much we may want to. We can release all of those connections but first we have to know what we’re dealing with and honor the level to which they are part of our emotional and energetic fields. Then we will know how much we will grieve and regret their loss, how far into our own belief system they extend, and how we need to prepare for our eventual separation and closure.
There is a video that explains this in detail, it’s part of the Raise Your Love Vibes introduction series, visit this link to watch the video
Simple connections are easy to release because we do not have very much of a commitment to them. Do we want broccoli or peas for dinner? It depends on how we feel on that day. If we like both we’ll have them on different days but we won’t miss peas if we have broccoli instead. That’s a simple example and it explains connections well, so why is it so hard to release some of our connections? Because they are not connections, they exist at the level of attachment.
Attachments represent a level of connection that extends into our energy field, so the loss or release of an attachment will be missed and we’ll require some work to close the gap that the loss of our attachment creates. They are something we rely on, which meets a life need, and whose loss leaves a hole we will need to fill. We are attached to our life partners, children, homes, cars, and jobs – all of these meet significant life needs and their loss is felt, sometimes deeply. Some attachments can never be fully replaced, while others take time and healing. If we have become deeply attached to our attachments, we feel their loss at a profound level but then we are moving into the level of enmeshment, the third level of connection.