Jennifer Hoffman – Any situation where we need to end things, whether it is a relationship, a life situation, a part of our life path, or a belief or mindset, we want closure and to be complete with it so we have no regrets, grief, sadness, or trauma. And yet that almost always happens. In spite of our best efforts and deepest desires to be finished with a situation, we struggle with being ‘done’ because a part of us wants to know if things could have been different. How can we move on? By understanding completion and closure and learning how to let go.
We can be complete with any situation when we remember that our participation is only half of the issue. Whoever or whatever is involved plays a part too and when that is a person, we must acknowledge their energetic potential, capacity for light, and their free will. While it is hard to accept that someone doesn’t want what we offer, it is not about us, it is about them and their ability to envision themselves at a particular frequency, light, and energy. Despite what we think about others’ potential, it is their ability and willingness to embrace that potential that decides the outcomes of our shared journeys.
So to be complete we must allow ourselves to know we did our best and so did the other person, but their best and our best didn’t match. Relationships now must be energetically matched or they cannot move forward. And being complete requires that we understand that completely and know that we are in someone’s life as a wayshower, and sometimes the way we show them is not the right path for them.
We can have closure after we finish our completion, after we accept someone’s choices, disentangle our expectations and desires from their potential and abilities, and refuse to engage in wishful thinking. Because that is what we do when we think that if we tried harder, did more, pushed harder, went an extra 100 miles, we could have changed the situation. And wishful thinking keeps us stuck in healing cycles that do not serve our ascension path. Think of these difficult situations as a final effort at completing our karma with others.
This karmic journey has taken us through many lifetimes of offering someone light, truth, an experience of a higher potential, which they have always rejected. If we want completion and closure we have to acknowledge their choice to stay in the darkness and density they believe is right for them, no matter how wrong we think that choice is.
The blessing of completion and closure is when we finally let go we make room for others to enter our energetic space who can be the friend, partner, and connection that uplifts, supports, and acknowledges us, that doesn’t need healing, doesn’t want trauma and drama, and who can give to us as well as receive from us.
Copyright (c) 2018 by Jennifer Hoffman. All rights reserved.
SF Source Enlightening Life Feb 2018