Jafree Ozwald | June 10 2012
“Immature love says, “I love because I need you”, while mature love says “I need you because I love you.” ~Unknown
You may have been fortunate enough to meet someone in life who constantly triggers you. Unknowingly they push some hidden secret button which instantly launches inside you a state of anger, hurt, blame or fear where you turn into a frightened little mouse or a fire breathing dragon. This person could be your best friend, your lover, your mom, dad, sister or brother or neighbor across the street. It could also be an impersonal figure on TV, a political party, a work competitor, or perhaps a group of unjustified “terrorists” you’ve never met in a country you’ve never visited. Anyone who can set you off balance where your sense of peace is instantly lost is your greatest teacher and has a powerful enlightening lesson to give you.
Perhaps you’ve heard of a man named Jesus who spoke many truths, one of them was learning how to love thy enemy. This may be the greatest challenge humanity has ever come across because we simply have forgotten one key ingredient. The essential purpose of this teaching is that you get to immediately be catapulted into your life’s highest vibration and consciousness. When you embrace that person which you absolutely cannot embrace, and love that part which is deeply unlovable, your life takes on a truly profound meaning and mission. You discover a freedom, a limitless joy, and a lightness inside you that cannot and will not ever be disturbed by anything or anyone.
The amount of energy you lose in hating, judging or resisting someone is extremely draining and unnecessary. Whatever you resist, persists. You always become that which you cannot embrace, so no matter how awful the person may be, that one little thing which you just cannot accept about them is the master over you. We create enemies in life because there is something inside of them which we should not, cannot, and absolutely will not own within ourselves. For example, if you are upset and often triggered by your partner because they are a control freak, you are rejecting some part of yourself, at some moment in your day where you’re not ok with having no control. Our issues are always in our tissues, and usually date back many lifetimes or perhaps as recent as your childhood dramas. They can be so ingrained that you may be willing to get divorced, fired, or even choose to leave the country instead of choosing to have compassion for this person and change your reaction to come from love.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ~Rumi
A little trick you can do the moment you feel yourself being stepped on or triggered by someone else is to step back emotionally, mentally and/or physically. Consciously moving back even a few extra centimeters to give you space can be enough for you to shift into a more expanded perspective and understanding. If you’re in a car and have no place to move, just take one deep breath and imagine that your energy is as vast and expansive as the entire sky. Experiment with what its like to listen to this person from a higher sky-like perspective, where you see the experience from a cosmic or world view level. From here you can imagine the radical and super sacred lesson this person is unconsciously attempting to teach you. Its often a lesson that will empower you, enlighten you, and redefine you in a way you’ve never known yourself before.
We judge others because we don’t understand how powerful we truly are. Once you see it, that you are a soul who is on an infinite journey through time, space for eternity, you will be kind and compassionate to everyone because you will see them again and again. You cannot escape from this Universe or the spiritual lessons its going to teach you. You can pretend you are above it all, yet if you have any level of inner conflict inside yourself with anyone you haven’t yet mastered what you came here to learn. If you decide to divorce your mate, you will get a 2nd chance (at some point) to learn the same lessons with the next lover. The lesson always has something to do with love, forgiveness, trust, healing an old wound, and/or opening your mind to a more expansive viewpoint of who you are. Learning this sacred lesson now will empower and liberate you much more than waiting til later. With a spiritual perspective you can find peace inside yourself the next time your partner does or says that one little thing that drives you bonkers.
“The moment you start seeing life as non-serious, a playfulness, all the burden on your heart disappears. All the fear of death, of life, of love – everything disappears. One starts living with a very light weight or almost no weight. So weightless one becomes, one can fly in the open sky.” ~Osho
It’s important to understand your mind has the power to make anybody into your best friend or worst foe. Until the mind has realized the truth of who you really are, it will continue to judge and make assumptions which are not true. Loving your enemy starts and ends with understanding their wounds, belief system, and childhood conditioning. Through listening deeply to what your enemy is really feeling, behind their words, you can see why they are exactly the way they are. The next time they trigger your button, you will react less and have more compassion instead because you understand their core wounding. Compassion naturally arises when you know the depth of pain the other is holding inside.
When you see that your enemy is doing their best in life with the resources and information they’ve been fed, and that you would be just like them if you were born in their mothers womb, you will learn how to relax and let go. The more sensitive you are to their experiences of life, the deep challenges they face everyday, the more detached you become from your ego’s point of view and can find a place for them in your heart. Devote yourself to living in a constant state of compassion. You will find a warm light grows inside you, and joyous freeing feeling surfaces with everyone you encounter. You can discover that who you are is the source of love. This is the sacred secret to expanding your energy, and become the most contagious, empowering, magnetic manifesting experience in your Universe.
We are all in this life together. No one is separate from the other as each unique part effects and creates the whole. With 7 billion people on this planet you’re going to encounter 7 billion different belief systems which will not always agree with each other about everything. So to get along with everyone here, the secret is learning how to accept the parts you cannot change and change the parts you can. Its about moving beyond your personal belief system, and unraveling this defensive protective ego. Whatever your ego tends to project, blame and shame on the other is always a strategy to hide this information about itself, so you don’t have to be “wrong” and transform your own life. If you look deeper inside, into your past, you’ll notice there is a pattern here where your first judgment started and continued. It is in this initial reaction where you’ll discover the key that unlocks the door to your finding the ultimate state of freedom.
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