Jennifer Hoffman – How many times do we set an intention and then get disappointed in the outcome? The problem is partly with our intentions, depending on who we’re making them for, and partly with our expectations, the things we hope will or won’t happen. These create what I call ‘false alignment’ because while we’re outwardly convinced of our intention, our internal alignment is off and we don’t get the results we want. Our expectations are a mirror of our fears and hopes, especially the ones we don’t want to admit to. But if we can keep our intentions personal and manage our expectations, then we can master our alignment and control our outcomes.
There are two kinds of intentions, those we make for ourselves and those we make for others. And while it is possible to set intentions for others, it is not a good idea because we cannot make them happen. We cannot manage other people’s energy or their outcomes, no matter how much we want to or how heart felt our intentions for them are.
There are three kinds of expectations, which represent what we really want or believe is possible. There are the expectations of success, of failure, and of others. The most powerful expectation is the one for success, but it can also be the most disappointing when it doesn’t work out. And the reason it doesn’t work as we hope or intend depends on what we’re expecting.
Do we want to succeed but we’re really just trying to avoid failure? That’s like walking forward while looking behind you, you will eventually run into something and hurt yourself.
Do we really expect to fail? Maybe not outwardly, but if we don’t believe we can be successful, then we’re expecting to fail. And that will result in failure, every time. But sometimes that failure protects us from our fear of success, guaranteeing that we won’t have to face the fear of what happens when we do succeed, achieve our dreams, become our most powerful self, etc.
For example, if you set an intention for a fabulous job with lots of responsibility, a great salary, upward mobility, and prestige but you don’t believe that will ever happen to you, you have an expectation of failure even though you have set an intention for success.
Or, you have an expectation that something wonderful will happen for you, and you set an intention for it, and then you sit back and expect it to happen by accident or just work out all by itself. In this case, your expectation mirrors your feelings of powerlessness and your lack of confidence. You haven’t filled the gap from intention to outcome with strong beliefs and positive energy, and you aren’t really aligned with your outcome. You don’t think you can create it, so you’re hoping the Universe or some supernatural force steps in and fills those gaps for you. In fact, that’s the only way you think that your outcome is possible.
Expectations that we have around other people can be tricky because they represent our personal agendas for validation, appreciation, and vindication, as well as our karmic lessons. You may want someone to be happy and do something wonderful for them, expecting to be appreciated for your efforts. That’s your personal agenda at work. And if they ignore your efforts or don’t validate them you can feel taken advantage of. But the problem is with your agenda and your expectations; you want someone to find you valuable, to show you that they think you’re a wonderful person and you are, but you have to create that as an internal foundation so they mirror your wonderfulness, not fill that void.
Expectations are one way that we hide our lack of confidence, insecurity, anxiety, and fears. We expect something that we just don’t believe is going to happen, although we hope that it does and this is what creates false alignments. We’re aligned with an outcome that simply isn’t true for us because we don’t believe it. Although we can create any outcome we want, as long as it is part of our field of potential, we control the outcome through our beliefs. And without belief and action, outcomes will follow the energy of our alignment, real or false.
Intentions are declarations of energetic consent that create a focused path for energy to flow into. Expectations are beliefs or opinions as to how things will turn out. If an expectation is based on an intention and supported by beliefs, it supports the intention. But if an expectation is hanging out in the ethers without any energetic support behind it, then it’s a false intention and it may happen, but the results may be disappointing. Intentions must be personal, about us and what we want, and expectations must be based on faithful self confidence for them to work together in the best way, to create our most desired outcomes.
We can use our expectations in conjunction with intentions to create very powerful outcomes as long as we know that action is a necessary part of the intention to outcome process. It doesn’t mean that we have to work hard but we do have to support ourselves and what we’re manifesting.
What would be possible if we gave all of the energetic support, love, belief, and commitment that we gave to others, to ourselves?
How much could we manifest if we were cheering ourselves on, supporting our intentions with strong beliefs, and action?
We could create anything and we can, when we use intentions in the best way and expect the best of ourselves and for ourselves.
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SF Source Enlightening Life Nov 2015
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