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Ways to Help Children Cope with Divorce

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divorceIf you’re contemplating divorce, you likely already know that this is a difficult and testing time for your family. Filing for divorce is difficult enough as it is, but if you have a child or children, a divorce can be especially frightening.

You and your soon-to-be ex-spouse need to do what is right for yourselves, but also what is best for your child.

Children of divorce often experience a range of emotions. Depending on their age and relationship with you and the other parent, they may be confused about why one parent is no longer living at home. They may be angry at whichever parent initiated the divorce. They may worry that it is their fault. They may be emotionally torn about which parent they want to “live” with.  Continue reading →

Ways to Preserve Dignity During a Divorce

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divorceDivorce is probably not something you foresaw the day you agreed to marry the person you’re now at odds with, and it’s unfortunate if this parting of ways has now become your reality.

During the divorce, you might find yourself slipping into a negative frame of mind, behaving badly toward your soon-to-be ex or making rash decisions fueled by emotion — and you certainly wouldn’t be the first person to do so. However, that doesn’t mean that you should.

Once your divorce is final, you can work on moving on with your life, but until then, it’s important to conduct yourself with dignity.

1. Avoid Drowning Your Sorrows

Although it may be tempting, avoid partaking in things that could be harmful in the short or long-term. For example, getting into the habit of overindulging in alcohol on a regular basis or turning to food throughout the day and evening in an attempt to comfort yourself can result in adverse effects that will only make things worse. Continue reading →

Reinventing and Rediscovering Yourself After a Divorce

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divorceYou’ve signed the papers and officially marked the end of a relationship you hoped to savor for the rest of your life. Whether you were married for months or decades, have children or do not, divorce is a roller-coaster of emotions for even the most level-headed individuals.

Irrespective of how and why things got to where they are today, one decision you have to make is where your life goes from here. You must reinvent and rediscover yourself if you want to pick up the pieces and move on.

Mourn Freely

Hardly anyone gets married with the intention of separating from their partner someday. Certain circumstances will drive you to the point where divorce is the most desirable outcome for everyone. Even then, divorce represents a loss. Continue reading →