“We lose nothing if our karmic partners don’t heal as we think they could or should, but we limit so much of our own energetic journey when we balance their energy with our own, staying at a level that will keep us within their sphere, just so we can see them (finally) healed.” – J Hoffman
In the game of tug of war, two groups hold opposite ends of a rope, each one trying to pull the other one in their direction or to force them to let go of the rope. It’s a back and forth struggle for control of the rope until one side wins. The strongest group (or the one that pulls hardest) will eventually get control of the rope. But if the groups are of equal strength, they stand still because the balanced dynamic tension they exert on the rope will not let it move in either direction.
Understanding how this game works helps explain our healing roles, karma, and how we can take the next steps in our evolution, transformation, and ascension. In all of our relationships, we’re playing a game of tug of war, where one person exerts just enough energy to balance the other person’s energy. We hope that by balancing their darkness, in the form of any healing we think they need, we will help them find their own light. This creates dynamic tension, where each person is equally balanced in the amount of dark and light they are expressing, and the relationship never moves beyond the healing mode because each person is waiting for the other one to let go of their end of the energy. The person we’re trying to heal, for example, is waiting for us to stop, and we, as the healer, are waiting for them to accept and integrate the light we offer, and change. Continue reading →