To charm is to attract and/or fascinate others. To be charming does not necessarily mean that you’re physically beautiful or handsome. Someone who is not particularly good looking could easily be attractive and charming.
So how do they do it?
Every individual is a universe onto him or herself. What charming people have in common is that they instinctively apply the tips below when interacting with others.
1. Smile. They say first impressions are what counts and there are studies that show that people take a second to make a decision on whether they like you or not, whether they’re interested in what you have to say or not. Nobody likes an angry or a sad person, but we all naturally feel attracted to smile people and happy faces. But having a lovely smile also involves having decent teeth, so if you don’t I would suggest having new teeth in Turkey.
2. Listen to people actively, there is nothing more pleasant than being listened to. So go ahead and listen and remember things about the other person. It also boosts their confidence, which is positive since we want to be around people we feel good with. They will be more than happy to be with you. So talk less and listen more.
3. Remember people’s names and call them by their name. They say your own name is the best music you can hear. Always be careful with this though, you may want to make a note right away, for it is a double-sided sword: if you get the name wrong it will have quite the opposite effect, so it’s better not to call by name than getting it wrong.
4. When you interact with people you must give your full attention to them, if you are distracted you may send the message across that you are not interested in the other person and what they have to say. So stop looking at your phone and look at the other people’s eyes and make sure he knows you are paying attention.
5. It is important to project an image with which you feel comfortable and confident, but don’t be obsessive about what others think (or could think) of you. It may help you know that what other people think is only a projection of themselves, and has nothing to do with yourself.
We as humans have evolved to thrive in the community. And communication is the key to achieve common goals… Do you see how all of these words share the same etymology?
So be ready to be cheerful and reachable, so people are happy to interact with you. When they do make sure you listen to them carefully and make sure you understand and that he knows you are interested in by asking questions and remembering stuff. It’s very important to remember their names and call them by it, but even more important not to get it wrong! Make sure to be present at the moment, looking into their eyes and never into your phone, giving full attention. And lastly, don’t be obsessed by what others may think, project self-confidence.
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